I think that she became a fighter, for herself and for her family. I write my mother's eulogy every single week. May her soul rest in peace Amen. In many ways the community was destroyed; we dispersed to all parts of Canada, many reluctant to return to the coast where they felt betrayed by their neighbours. She had developed a tendency to remember and talk in loops of repeating information, but we were kind of on the same track. And am thinking of how to write my eulogy too. I also remember my husband sitting by her side talking to her for several minutes. In March, I wrote in Slow Motion: The Alzheimers Grieving Process: Alzheimers disease creates such a bizarre and unfair grieving process for families. My kids found this hilarious; Grandma couldnt remember to stop singing. I didnt know I would say goodbye to my mother eight days after I wrote Keep Me In Your Heart: A Fathers Day Wish. Another blogger I follow also unfortunately lost her Grandma. I was constantly racking my brain, trying to figure out what or whom she was waiting on. That morning, however, my grandfather regained full consciousness. Find NJ.com on Facebook. I felt I was able to reach her in that moment. In the last few years of Grandma Paulines life, my older two kids, around 6 and 8 at the time, were confused about why we had to make time to see her. I stopped in my tracks as soon as I saw her, waiting for her to breathe. Tags: Dementia, Grandparent Loss, It's Complicated Russell wheeled you outside for some fresh air and sunshine, and you smiled and tried to speak to me several times. She didnt wander off and she never completely forgot the members of her immediate family. That is how we will always remember her. But then I realized that winding back the clock would be exactly the wrong thing to do on a day like this. Beginners welcome. Grandma and Grandpa set up a corner store in east Vancouver, which they kept open long hours. That tells me the depths of her distress about her experience. Seattle & Leeds. In the end, Im grateful to her for everything she was to me, and Im able to feel glad that she is free now. Ive edited it a bit because I wrote it to read out: My grandmother, Susan Sugiyama, was a woman I would like to honor today with my memories of her. Jag har aldrig slutat att grta fr allt han har gtt misste om. Eulogy for a Grandmother I'm not sure how you begin to talk about a life that spanned nearly a centurya woman whose time included half a dozen wars, The Great Depression, and 17 different presidents. We honored my mother, Dixie Benton Stucky (1953-2013), on Saturday, June 29, 2013.We hosted a memorial service at Western Hills Church of Christ in Austin, Texas. I was expecting to choose hospice care for my grandfather when we met with the hospital staff last Thursday. We are still grieving, but also returning to good memories for comfort. This hits me close to home as my own grandmother recently passed away after suffering with dementia for a decade or so. When you ask Americans over the age of 60 what health threat they fear the most, overwhelmingly they say Alzheimer's. With the outbreak of war with Japan, like others in the Japanese Canadian community she was sent with her father, her mother and her younger brother Sid, to a prison camp for the duration of the war. The other 80 percent of preventing Alzheimer's is well within our control, based on how well we eat, how often we exercise, how much stimulation we give our mind and how socially active and spiritually replenished we keep ourselves. She had a sense of the ridiculous and was always ready to laugh over anything silly. I feel like I lost my mom a long time ago, but there was no funeral, no obituary, no headstone, no closure. I hated watching her unconscious, struggling to breathe and seeing her body succumb a little more each day to dehydration. It was vibrant and living and worshipful. But dementia doesn't care. As a beneficiary of that love and of Grandmas legacy, I am grateful. They had to start from scratch; my mother remembers a cabin with dirt floors. Search for: Recent Posts. She showed me much love and kindness. [], [] didnt really get to know Karen until after my mom passed in June 2013. I try to remember that inspirational lesson as I parent my own children. It seems almost everyone I talk to has lost a parent or grandparent to Alzheimer's, or is currently dealing with it in their extended family. Share on Pinterest. She was perpetually cheerful, joyful, and sunny. We honored my mother, Dixie Benton Stucky (1953-2013), on Saturday, June 29, 2013. After all, she and her community had been unfairly victimized for nothing more than their ethnicity. Do you know youre loved?. A lot of the Japanese culture that I retain, as a fourth-generation Japanese Canadian, came from her. She cultivated refinement in her surroundings and her person. However, by the time she was 85, the connection Id always considered so special, essential, and real had truly become formal and foreign. As a young woman, she came to Vancouver, to attend sewing school. But to me, that was a great picture of who Grandma actually was. One of which was Margaret Mavis Harpley, 85, who had been suffering with Alzheimers Disease for a number of years. I hope we always remember her strength and fortitude, her love of beauty and her keen aesthetic sense, her kindness and love for her family. Grandma was pretty frail by then and I wasnt sure she even knew who I was. She traveled Europe, South East Asia and Japan, and made many trips to the U.S. also. But the truth is that my grandmother had been gone for more than a decade when she took her last breath. Maybe some short stories. I've got some good topics coming up. She grew up in Deep Bay, on Vancouver Island, where her father was a fisherman, ranging as far as the Alaskan Panhandle on his small boat. But know Im thinking of you and thanks so much for sharing. I didnt really take time to grieve, and, to be honest, I thought I had already finished [], [] in Rockport on the Texas coast. I finally found peace after Alzheimers disease. And so on this day, as we honor Pat Thunes life and legacy, I find myself thankful for and challenged by her cheerful optimism, her sanctified pride, and her genuine love for Christ. One of her lungs had failed and she was no longer conscious. We were all sitting around the table and Grandma kept breaking into song the same song over and over again. Love for Christ. We held the funeral yesterday and I gave the eulogy. I was devastated, but also relieved for the permission to mourn what I had lost so many years earlier. It's far more personal. You Are Only as Good as the People You Surround Yourself With, By Jamie Kolnick in My Loss, Personal Essays. It was about the kind of person you were and the difference you made in the lives of others. Thinking of you, my dear friend. Did I really need to get attached and then lose my stepmom to colon [], [] Before I had babies, the last diaper I changed was my mothers. I had already spent so many years grieving and honoring the memory of my mother and best friend. Thank you for your kind thoughts, I appreciate them. I expected the agonizing wait to continue. I recently lost my mother to Alzheimers. We can reduce our risk to a far greater degree than most Americans realize or act upon. Life in internment camp was very hard; the sense of being shamed, set apart and treated unfairly was, I think, almost worse. It felt inappropriate to mourn Grandma Pauline, while she was still with us at least in the literal sense, but the spirit of her was so far away. m_gallery_creation_date = "Tuesday, April 26, 2016, 3:51 PM"; (Contributed photo). Life is too short to dwell on the painful memories but long enough to rebuild as your grandmother did. We thought that the trip would provide a nice diversion for all of [], [] itshard to watch friends lose their moms (and dads) much too young, I know from my own experience that, eventually, they will come out the other side, stronger and wiser, even though that ache [], [] This will be my eighth Mothers Day since my mother died. Grandma was an expert seamstress and sewed clothing for her family. When Id ask about my grandfather, Norman, who died in his late 50s in a plane crash on his way to Japan, shed remind me that I was named after him. Beauty wordings and a few random tangents! These memories of our time together I hope she retained. Tony Dearing may be reached at tdearing@njadvancemedia.com. By Nina Badzin. But if she lost them, then I can only hope that she lost, too, the bitter memories of wartime and the hard years of struggle afterwards. Everyone told her that it was okay for her to go home but her stubborn little body just kept fighting. By Tullan Holmqvist in My Loss, Personal Essays. And now that I can only reach back through the memories, I promise to share the best ones I have with my children and, God-willing, with my grandchildren and great-grandchildren. I started reading your eulogy when you sent it, but read it today thoroughly. But I can finally remember her, I would have explained, except that I couldnt talk. I certainly will. We are hoping to move him into a nursing home closer to my grandmother early next week. She fixed my hair with gentle hands. Writer. Dementia stole my grandmother long ago, leaving me to mourn her all over again when she died years later. Tras la muerte de mi mam, encontr un nuevo significado en mi color favorito de siempre. Now go home and take care of your babies. The reason is that my mothers mother, my Grandma Sugiyama, passed away on Christmas Eve. I didnt hear my grandmother say shoganai. She didnt speak of the internment at all to me. As a child, he always associated the clippety-clop sound of her approaching shoes with a sense of comfort, a sign of someone coming to provide care and security. So to me, she was an indulgent and fond grandmother. I vividly remember my last good visit with you, about a month before you died, when (my brother) Russell and I came to see you the day before Mothers Day. I cant remember a single time I was around her when she wasnt encouraging, exhorting, or urging me and others toward faith and obedience to Christ. Wants and Needs: Teach Your Children the Difference with These Tips, No Matter Your Game, Sports Bring Families Together During Hard Times. It was as if my mother had saidbefore I left, Im going home. But finding a way to act friendly and cheerful and talkative with the woman who still looked like my grandma required me to put my memories of her pre-dementia identity on hold. When my grandmother died two weeks ago, I was asked to share a short eulogy at the memorial service. The five days leading up to my mothers death were physically and emotionally trying. I believe wherever she is now she will be smiling reading this about her self. What a life she had and what a blessing she was to you and you to her. She also boiled shiitake mushrooms which doesnt smell good to kids and to this day I cant eat shiitake. They had never seen me sob, and they couldnt grasp what was so sad about losing a person who barely remembered me. I know how concerned people are about these matters because I hear from them every week. The unexpected health risks of skim milk. I took them to see her anyway. After some debate, my family elected me to compose and deliver the eulogy. Jet Diver Vs Dipsy Diver, For some people, we're here to celebrate "Lou." For others, "Mom." Her battle was over. Even though she was not physically demonstrative, we shared hugs and held hands when we walked around Honolulu. Loved reading about how she passed Japanese culture to you. Ive been in a bit of a shocked state because I think I believed she was eternal, even though she was 94 and getting frailer each time I saw her. Keep being Mommy. I slept well that night for the firsttimesince the hospice nurse had told us the end was near. As everyone took stock of our familys past, I learned a surprising lesson: Memories borne through touch, taste, sound travel well. m_gallery_blog_id = "8001122"; I write this column every week, because right now, information is really all we have to protect ourselves against Alzheimer's disease. 1. 2023 Lauren Flake Grief & Texas, on Saying Goodbye to My Mother: Peace After Alzheimers Disease, Some Stars Shine: Happy Birthday, Baby Brother, Music in Memory: Country Gospel Funeral Songs, In Memory of My Mother: Funeral Songs For the Love of Dixie, Dear Mom: You Were My First Blessing For the Love of Dixie, Music in Memory: Country Gospel Funeral Songs For the Love of Dixie, Mother's Day: Somewhere in Between Us For the Love of Dixie, When Mother's Day is Hard - For the Love of Dixie, It Is Well with My Soul: Two Years Later - For the Love of Dixie, Living Bravely: Guest Post at Radically Broken - For the Love of Dixie, Guest Post Living Bravely | radicallybroken, Book Review: Forgiveness-Unforgiveness by Erin Olson - For the Love of Dixie, 5 Things Alzheimer's Taught Me about Motherhood - Lauren Flake, If Your Heart Is Just A Little Broken This Mother's Day - Lauren Flake - Grief & Texas, Why Mother's Day Is Filled with Grief (and Hope) for Me - Lauren Flake - Grief & Texas, 5 Things That Happen When You Lose Your Mom - Lauren Flake - Grief & Texas, When Mother's Day is Hard because You Lost Your Mom - Lauren Flake - Grief & Texas, Though I Walk through the Valley: 12 Days in Psalm 23 Devotional, Where Did My Sweet Grandma Go? So beautiful Lea. When I tell people that Grandma Pauline died last year at the age 96, the response is almost always some permutation of You were blessed to have her for so long. That is true in the technical sense. I believe that I enjoyed a tenderness from her that her own daughters perhaps did not get; she was dedicated to protecting them, and her war experiences made her fierce in her protectiveness. But then, in January, my parents called with news that she had contracted pneumonia. We're so glad you're here. Two years ago, Harold and Pat came to my church for the first time ever. My years of worry, tears, and constant attachment to my cell phone, expecting calls from nurses in the middle of the night, were over. Her family was drastically set back by the confiscation of all their property. Until finally, it is over. Is she dead? I asked, in disbelief, but I knew the answer. Big hugs from afar,xoHelen, Date: Tue, 7 Jan 2014 22:07:04 +0000 To: helenm_moore@hotmail.com. But Grandma, who I never heard say shoganai, nevertheless lived shoganai, working hard to move on with her life and to leave the past behind. With tears in her eyes, she said, We are very special to each other, arent we? We talked about the sleepovers, lunches, and other happy times. I mean the good kind a sanctified pride in her family. Nina and Grandma Pauline You should write more about her. He died in 1977 of a respiratory disease, shortly after the birth of my sister Erin. Such a nice eulogy to a lovely grandmother. eulogy for grandmother with alzheimer's; Recent Comments. And many of us here today are the fruit of those prayers. After a couple of days of absorbing the shock and trying to erase that final image of my mothers lifeless body, I woke up that Monday morning feeling at peace. There was no high school in Deep Bay, so Grandma finished school at 13 and began to help her family on the fishing boat, in the cannery, and also working berry picking and farming. She had a fall on the 20th of December that fractured her pelvis and back, and she was in hospital. I sat on her bed and held her hand. No more suffering, no more pain, no more Alzheimers disease. We always knew we werent as great as Grandma thought we were; but we hoped we were kinda close. Your email address will not be published. Because while the most meaningful memories of Grandma are those from days long past, the most accurate memories the ones that most clearly reveal her true character are the most recent ones. In her mind, Thunes were great at everything and everybody ought to acknowledge it. Men nr jag passerade ldern d han dog, ndrades ngot. The glass was always half full. After my mom died, I discovered a world of new meaning in my favorite color. But people dont quite know how to mourn someone whos still technically alive. Candid conversation about grief. The grieving process is a long one, and never truly over, but hope your memories are helping to ease the sadness. I still dream about her often. And I can attest that one of the last memories my mother shared with me consisted of her as a child, sledding down a hill, excited to reach her mothers outstretched arms at the bottom. But I didnt ask, and she couldnt really answer anyway. But I know now. 2. Registration on or use of this site constitutes acceptance of our User Agreement, Privacy Policy and Cookie Statement, and Your California Privacy Rights (each updated 1/1/20). Out of loyalty to our relationship and because it was the right thing to do, I spent time with my grandmother whenever I came to Chicago to see my parents. So I go after dementia the way it went after my mother -- relentlessly, clinically, unrepentantly. I just lost her 1st of january 2016. The good memories, the meaningful memories that we have of Pat are of her younger, more vivacious years. Very moving. What a beautiful piece of writing and a wonderful tribute to an obviously amazing person. We had a very different Christmas this year and I havent been able to post anything, despite having read many books. She taught her daughters to dress nicely and I think I can attribute some of my dress sense to my put-together grandmother. []. My grief for her really for myself is making me so tired. People didnt deliver meals or flowers. We will cherish each sweet moment together. [], [] This Sunday will bemy second Mothers Day since my mother died. Cheerfulness. She took me to church with her, to the Japanese United Church on Victoria Drive, where I met other children with similar backgrounds, and ate homemade udon noodles at the church bazaars. Your love for her, your tender descriptions of her, your understanding and compassion for her wartime experiences and your tribute to her character are so beautifully written. Wish I could have been there at the funeral. During the night on the 23rd of December she suffered a stroke that left her non-responsive on the 24th, and that afternoon she died. For years. My 83-year-old mother has dementia. She looked after me a lot when I was young and my mother was establishing her career; I have very fond memories of the time I spent with her. Thank you so much Pastor Bob. The next day, Saturday, June 22, 2013, I walked into her room with my dad. But then I realized that would be exactly the wrong approach. Shed experienced a bad fall, and Id come to see her at the hospital. To this day, coconut syrup and guava juice means Waikiki Breakfast with Grandma. When I logged onto Zoom to lead a session on friendship, my true love was waiting in the grid. When I was first asked to share a few words in honor of my grandmother, I was tempted to wind back the clock about ten years. And many of us here today are the fruit of those prayers. March 22, 2012December 11, 2012. It was vibrant and living and worshipful. I wish we had taken a picture of the three of us that day. We shared a hotel room, and as we both got up early, we walked the beach at Waikiki every morning and then Grandma took me to a cafe for breakfast, a different one every day. Music played an important role in my journey through my mothers illness. Do you know youre precious? she would ask during every outing together. Its difficult today to fully comprehend the pain of this experience, and how it affected our community. Archives I wish I had known to write down the details of her life while she was still sharing them during those sleepovers and lunches. But as long as Mom could still lift a hand, she would lift it in kindness to someone else.". If you want to chat, I am here. She prayed relentlessly for her kids and grandkids and for the people of Murdo. Again, a sensory memory of security became the most indelible legacy of a loving parent. Grandma never heard my dad preach a mediocre sermon; 3. Required fields are marked *. As the minister read my brothers poem, I realized the roses embodied his words and our mother. Growing up as a kid with that kind of a grandmother had a way of bestowing confidence, self-worth, and a sense of rootedness. I think it was a chapter of her life that she wanted to forget and erase as much as possible. Then we held a graveside service later that day at Sealy Cemetery in Sealy, Texas. We are so happy with his improvement, despite his spinal injury. My most emotional moment was holding my phone up to her ear so my grandfather could say goodbye to his only child. My mother, who had a way with words, might have said we were multivocal. Thus, I thought her eulogy should be multivocal as well, and I asked each sibling to help me by sharing a favorite memory or two that paid tribute to some of her values e.g., sacrifice, dedication, humility and a sense of humor. Thank you for reading the post. A friend of my mothers for 40 years, Stuart Platt, delivered my mothers eulogy at her funeral and also spoke at her graveside service. She told the same stories over and over, and as time went on closer and closer together. By Cynthia Rodriguez in My Loss, Personal Essays. "Since 2014, when the clinic was founded, it's been OK to say 'Alzheimer's disease' and 'prevention' in the same sentence.". personal blog, fashion, street fashion, fashion blog, style, makeup, makeup tests, makeup styles, beauty, beauty, health, hair, haircare, hairstyles. They say that ones deep childhood memories are the last to leave a brain invaded by Alzheimers, in part because they are literally embodied in ones skin and bones. Our last conversation was about Japan. [], [] After awaiting your passing and the end of your suffering for so long, I had no idea I would miss visiting you so much, even though you couldnt respond to me. It's an anxiety that hangs over all of us. I told my husband I feel like when I hold her hand, Im asking her to stay with me. For some reason, I knew that she would let go when no one was watching her; I felt she wanted it that way. In 1915, her mother came to Canada as a picture bride. I was finally ready for her to go. Most of the other stories fell away to the point where I couldnt remember them either. Filed Under: death, growing up, memories Tagged With: Aging, Alzheimer's, life lessons. Before my grandma died, Id get a hardened, stoic sensation when Id think about her. I never heard a word of bitterness or complaint from her. The disease made the last few years especially painful, but she lived to age 85 and led a full life. I am so sorry for your loss but what a moving memorial for her life. I was so lucky to have her for so long. [] I have received several requests for the playlist of funeral songs from my mothers services. She taught me a Japanese childrens song; although I couldnt understand the words, I loved singing with her. When we got word en route that she had died, my husband had to keep assuring the kids that I was okay. [], [] That night, a great peace washed over me. Perhaps the only silver lining was that the diseases slow progression gave my five siblings and me time to process her death, reflect on her life, and arrange an appropriate memorial service. Jameson Peter Mendes, I will always remember how you prompted me to seek out help when I was grieving, and I would be happy to be there for you too, if that is what you need (now or in the future). I remember crying as I sat next to her, holding her hand. For the past 10 years, Grandma suffered from dementia and memory loss so I was tempted to rewind the clock and talk about how she really was in her earlier years. [], [] was pregnant with my second daughter and chasing after a toddler when my mom died. I hope I can be kinda like her when I grow up. I had no idea the next time I saw you, you would be unconscious on your deathbed. Vincent OKeefe is a writer and stay-at-home father with a Ph.D. in American literature. She loved nice shoes and clothes and was always well turned out. The blow to Grandmas sense of self-worth was hard to recover from. After grandpa died, Grandma began to travel and explore the world. Well, she lived 94 years so you know Grandma didnt waste rice. Im more like my grandfather. Your father touched my soul like no one ever has. The Riparian Times is a boutique publication with musings about life, travel, fashion and art. While you are, subscribe to our spam-free newsletter. If you ask my four kids about their memory of Grandma, theyll likely talk about Thanksgiving 2 years ago. I want them to know I had a Grandma Pauline, who filled me with enough love to pass on a gift like that to all of them. As many of you know, for the last ten years or so, Grandma has suffered from dementia and memory loss, such that in her latter days she was a shadow of her former self. I spent the rest of that week scanning photos of my beautiful mother and finalizing details for her funeral services. When I launched this column, I promised myself that once a year, on the anniversary of her death, I would devote the column to her memory. From Lillooet she moved with her family to Kamloops, where she met my grandfather, and they married in 1944. I had deja vu from watching my mother in her final days and months of Alzheimers disease. When words fail, music comes through and pulls us all in. Get to Chicago right away, they told me. What a lifetime your grandmother had youve captured it so well, describing the wartime and subsequent hardships, but focusing on the gifts she passed on to you and your family. They stayed in business until 1973, when Grandpas health forced his retirement. My grandmother was shaped by her historical context. [NBC News], We Cant Comprehend This Much Sorrow [NY Times], The Familial Language of Black Grief [The Atlantic]. He is writing a memoir on gender and parenting. You Might Have the Better Claim But I Have the Bigger Army. The last time I saw my grandmother was in April 2013, about nine months before she died. A lovely heartfelt story, that just goes to show how everyones life is fascinating. My aunt Judy was born in Kamloops, my mother in Revelstoke, and my aunt Esther in Vernon, and the family made its way back to Vancouver in 1950, when the Canadian government allowed Japanese Canadians back to the coast, four years after the end of the war. Then we held a graveside service later that day at Sealy Cemetery in Sealy, Texas. When confronted with the question of why, Mom laughed and said: I dont know. The reason is that my mother's mother, my Grandma Sugiyama, passed away on Christmas Eve. I Met My Fianc in a Modern Loss Support Group, By Shelby Forsythia in My Loss, Personal Essays. I cant say for sure what her memory and consciousness were allowing her to experience, but Id like to think that we made one last connection before she left us. Taylor Hawkins' son poured everything into each slam of the sticks. He remarked at her graveside that how we live now, going forward, is part of her legacy. Theres no filter. We visited her in hospital and I showed her pictures of my familys trip there in October and she reminisced about her last trip. She showed me patience. Ironically, it seems fitting that such body memories ended up dominating a eulogy for someone who died of Alzheimers disease. Ill try to post on those later. She was delicate and wild., Memorial Service Packet Dixie StuckyMemorial Service Packet Insert Page Dixie StuckyKnesek Funeral Home Obituary and Guestbook. My grandmother spent one winter living on potatoes, taking shelter in a tent. : A Preschoolers Guide to Losing a Loved One, Where Did My Sweet Grandpa Go? Tagged as eulogy, Japanese Canadian internment, What a stunning and moving tribute to your grandmother. She stopped going to her film class; she quit her book club; she lost interest in seeing friends. She doesnt know us, theyd say. Sure, several people offered to help here and there, helping my parents move houses, or more recently, going with me to visit my mother. It isn't high-tech at all. I was reading Anne of Green Gables for the first time, and Grandma allowed me to chatter to her nonstop about this landmark book which she hadnt read. Her joyful exuberance turned out to be [], [] Ireally need to watch my mom suffer with early onset Alzheimers disease for the bulk of my twenties? 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