They love to play mind games and are always trying to control the situation. Going to make it happen step by step. Tomorrow Im going to pay my attorney for divorce proceedings discreetly. I am in the process of leaving him. All rights reserved. Im sure theres other people in my same situation with faith taking control over and above the evil; providing us with strength and encouragement to get through each day. I was shocked when my best friends daughter cut off all contact with her mother. I have an intense need to stay for their sake. I agree that divorce is not good but the marriage license is not a license to abuse another person either. I am trauma bonded, mentally, physically and emotionally broken because of this man. Learning about the cycle of abuse helped me see how she lets me cool off then without discussing the latest attacks resume normalcy Me personally I just had enough and got up walk out the door and havent looked back Lifes great now much more fun beware of Tina McDowell she not worth it. Although everything is my fault naturally. It was very interesting what I have read I want to continue to understand narcissist. This really gives me a good angle when approaching her. Well written ,too. Its no surprise that they lack self-esteem because of their insecurity. Never. I was not prepared for this woman and she ran me over and left me in a heap of road-kill. No longer self-hate, but hatred towards him and how he treated me and made me feel about myself. you are a narcissist that uses women and I dont trust you. This is the most truthful reading of a narcissist person I have experienced. Signed, A concerned Citizen . Ive used my entire savings for a future with this person and all hes done is take away my home , by not adding my name . She has been brainwashed to forget me. If he isnt gone soon I will leave my job, sad to say. He says I pushed him away and told him to go find someone else. As a narcissist, you are not interested in losing battles. BE FREE!!!! what are the chances that this ill schmuck will try to contact me. I personally have blocked her on every single device, website and platform possible to keep her away from myself and family. I was tricked and manipulated by him. Shes 83 years old and still controlling the status quo. Happy and safe travels on the path of true freedom and self discovery. Someone who thinks they really really smart when in real world very stupid. She not only became volatile because of it, but threatnened to basically cut me off. Of course, its no surprise that most authority figures dislike working with narcissists. When the covert narcissist makes a mistake, instead of apologizing, they will try to get revenge. So predictable, wow. My partner constantly cheated on me, apparently it was my fault! Im 48 and my mother is abusive. It is easy for them to be jealous when they have such a low sense of self. Copyright 2020 mentalhealthmatters-cofe.org. Im so glad to know they resonate with you. The good thing is I dont care anymore, yes I would love to see our grandson but do I miss her you bet I dont. The only way is to delete them 100% from your life, I am in this situation, have been for the greater part of this marriage. Lived with him for 2 years and kicked him out. My husband and I argue but always equal usually about parking little things normal life married nearly forty years love each other. I lived it for 24 years! She put him down for being only a manager at a store that he loved and they moved away without him saying good bye. He can do whatever he wants, but when I retaliate the only way I seem to know how, by telling his family about him in the hope that they can helphe turns up the heat and plays victim, as if i cheated, lied, had anger outbursts and all sorts against him. It seems this life lesson has come back around and now I am smarter and can be the Step Mom/Nana that this family has craved. The boys real father spent five years trying to ruin her and eventually took his own life. He was very angry, but he left. They will always seek out someone elses life to make miserable. So emotionally Im a complete mess. I moved on and he didnt like that i guess. The kids are all adults, and I need to determine the path I need to take for my personal happiness! A narc will save up situations when they were hurt to fire back at you. My friends, family. Then its back to the abuse. I thought I was going crazy until I read what a narcassist is and it all fell into place. Its killing me and really hurting the boys!! They promise to go to I still struggle with the emotional pain since i still love him but i will never take him back. Was married to the woman you describe for just over 30 years. This is my son and I wont end my relationship with him, but I recognize that he has lied for years now and as a young adult has begun to get himself in trouble with the law. I have gone zero contact with my ex for the past 3 months. God will show you the answers when we leave and are able to hear his voice again. Just for the record, trying to make a narcissist miserable might have its place for a short period of time, but I dont recommend focusing on it for too long as this will inevitably have an effect on your mental health and energy levels. Keep reminding yourself of that. We were on and off for about 8vyears a d I recently found out she was cheating the hole time with people I never new and with my bestfriend and Im sure my boss .compleatly crushed me and not explanation no sorry just a fk off . Yet I cant let go. Sadly I learnt to tolerate as a child . Pulled them aside and told them I would kill them. There is no point in loving someone , who chooses not to love anyone.. Love isnt one sided !! Malignant narcissists Hes very intelligent and charming when he needs to be. One of my brothers goes back and forth between being tired of her to reminding me that shes old and we might not have her around much longer..boo hoo. Living the dream now! You dont deserve to be unhappy. Thinking about getting a dog to feel a sense of loyalty around hereCrazy times! They recognize that the narcissist cant provide mutual respect, connection, or love. Insanity can be manifest as violations of societal norms, including a person or persons becoming a danger to themselves or to other people.Conceptually, mental insanity also is associated with the biological phenomenon There is tremendous amount of post divorce abuse and him withholding finances / neglecting child etc. My best friend of 7 years. Did you know that verses in the Bible are just dates and times? When they make rude comments about you, make them smile. I really need to feel sorry for myself instead of this psychotic game playing NARC. It is a totally sick crazy person! When their ex is happy, narcissistic people frequently return to their ex. Are they frequently getting reprimanded for their behavior? This was some good and helpful information. And he copied me, I say covet me , my fur babies. I love him but know the only way to be happy again is to walk away, Im having a hard time. The best friend has a busy life but sons partner had no job stayed at home did nothing but her hobbies all day at 25 years old our son worked 12 hour shifts. He used to laugh and be so happy but we dont even recognize him he looks in bad health and he has already been sacked and now has taken time off from his second job to look after her when she has never even attempted to work from a young age. The DV HOTLINE IS USELESS as of tomorrow Nov14, 2020 I maybe homeless in Dallas, County, TX. G nqa. Disappearing frequently and being vague about their whereabouts The first in the list of narcissist cheating signs is that many cheating narcissists tend to drop off the face of the Earth regularly and not take their partners calls for hours or days on end. Everything youve posted she tends to do is doing or has done Im only in so far for two years I found you by accident and started reading. Shes fake nice to mom but then screams at her. Thank you for helping me understand what they are doing so I can free myself from the torture. Wishing you luck! Thats very brave. How scary is it when you know they would prefer to be widowed than divorced. Mine triggered me multiple times on purpose (I have CPTSD from the narc abuse and other abuse, yet of course they are the bigger victim). This is my boss to the T. She thrives in negetivity. I was skeptical they would even get involved, now they check on me all the time. myself and my kids have gone through a period of having three female narcists destroying my family. Love the ones who will accept you for who you are. Moreover, even if they try to comprehend it, they refuse to accept this reality. Hang inthn you know not to confront so do opposite give what he wants n get away road blocks so you can prepare do not confront alone n doesnt matter just leave, Your arrival hits All of the simpsons of the person I was involved with on the nail. According to Robert A. Heinlein, jealousy is a symptom of neurotic insecurity, which is pathological. Only sleep thereon a hard mat on the floorthey kick you out at 430 a.m. Its in a very bad part of town. Take care of you and your health, especially your mental oneand when you feel overwhelmed, please take 3 deep breaths and think about the things you are grateful in your life (it could be small things). Its a misogynist culture after all. Recovering from narcissistic abuse is hard, and its okay to admit you need help. I know 2 men /boys one my daughters Daddy babys daughter!! My son has charm and charisma that attract people and I see that his wife has destroyed that. We r in same support group so its hard. And counted Cupid as his friend, misplaced arrows piercing lust. I just blocked one that I have helped for 3 years ! To this day I am happier than I have been over those years and Im loving everyday of my life more and more. Exact same situation here. It has been hell. They may post messages claiming to be jealous of you or photos of themselves having sex with their partners partner. Detach and kiss em goodbye. Your email address will not be published. Hes 16 and going out into the world soon and Im afraid hes going to steal from the wrong person. Every single word , I have lived . She sucks up to all the men in the office which is totally nauseating. 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